One of the most amazing things about boys is how they feel about girls. I have, in my life, learned a few lessons which i will summarize on my blog in phases. They may be hard hitting, practical and obnoxious but then i have the right to express myself through what i have seen & the blog also is aptly titled as "My life, My views".
So here is Lesson No. 1 - Never go out of your way, if it is not worth it
Conventionally, majority of boys have some feelings for girls, even if the girls are complete strangers to them. We try to be nice to the fairer sex in our own unique ways. However, remember that a majority of your good deeds will go unnoticed or will lose their value after a point of time.You may be doing good today because you are inherently good but always ask to yourself, "is it worth it??"
You may go out of your way to help your girlfriend at times. Majority of boys do that. Not because they have been instructed to do so by the Divine soul but they do so out of their own wishes. The motive may be to put an impression on her, to brighten that sweet smile, so get a pat on their back, to get to hear some sweet words out of her mouth, to get respect even! But all that is short lived. Well, life is very practical these days. Things like honestly, discipline, love, fairness, tenderness, feelings are of little importance. They have been clobbered hard and obliterated by handsomeness, dudeness, adventure, coolness etc.
So you may be nice to your girlfriend, you may go out of your way to make her smile, you may dance with her in the rain, you will rectify her computer/laptop countless times while sacrificing your time and may be studies, you may get her umpteen number of coffees, you may help format her documents in MS-Word, you may accompany her to malls or movies, you may also help her buy electronic gadgets including laptops, you may help her figure that goddamn train reservation, you may celebrate her birthday in style, you may invite all your friends on your pocket money to make her feel special, you may motivate her when she would be feeling low, you may sit patiently listening to her about how her day went by, you may overpraise her in front of your friends and you may even help her with her resume which may get her an interview call all over the world but would still fail to raise your profile in front of her BUT...
ASK yourself before doing all these things, is it really worth it? Does she really love you? Will doing this cement the feelings mutually or would it still be one-sided? ASK would you be nice to a girl, at the COST of your precious time,energy & may be money, just for her momentous appreciation when she herself may hesitate? Will you bunk your classes if she can't bunk hers? If she is your wife, or if she reciprocates your feelings with equal force, then you SHOULD go to any extent for her including everything mentioned above. But, if she is hesitant, has no reciprocation or feelings towards you, or always asks for favours and never gives them, then NEVER ever go out of your way to help any girl, if she is not worth it...
Remember world is big and its always the slow and steady who wins the race. You will eventually/in due course of time, find a true soul mate. Therefore never go out of your way to help those who don't deserve it. Otherwise its quite possible that even after doing all those countless good things, one day you may find yourself alone on a hospital bed and left with no body on your side but pain, waiting endlessly for the same precious smile, words and warmth that you once helped to achieve, to heel your wounds... If you still feel like lending a helping hand, do that but don't expect anything in return, not even a phone call..
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